December 2025

Is it still gov’t when a hate-filled Administration just acts like a child.

The President of the United States called a reporter “piggy” on Air Force One.

He called another one “ugly, both inside and out.” Called another “obnoxious.” Another “stupid and nasty.” Another “incapable.” All women. All in the last month. All for asking questions.

He told Bloomberg reporter Catherine Lucey “Quiet, piggy” when she asked about the Epstein files. He called New York Times reporter Katie Rogers “ugly” after she reported on signs of his aging. He told ABC’s Rachel Scott she was “the most obnoxious reporter in the whole place” when she pressed him on illegal military strikes.

This isn’t political disagreement. This is a 79-year-old man who cannot control himself calling professional women playground insults from the highest office in the country.

And I’m looking around asking: where is everyone?

I’m a White Man Asking White Men

I don’t get to speak for women or Black people about how they should respond to this. That’s not my place. But I can ask my own people—white men—why we’re so quiet.

Where are the op-eds from male journalists defending their colleagues? Where are the white male politicians saying “this is beneath the office”? Where are the fathers and husbands and brothers standing up and saying “not in our name”?

Because here’s what I’m watching: women surrounding Trump every day, repeating his lies. Conservatives eliminating empathy from school curriculums. White House press secretaries dismissing “piggy” as frankness. Cabinet members with barely any Black representation. Policies that gut funding for nurses, special education, programs that disproportionately help women and children.

And the collective response feels… muted.

Where Did the Resistance Go?

Trump’s first term saw millions of women march on Washington the day after inauguration. Sustained protests. Daily outrage. Organized resistance that felt relentless.

This term? Crickets.

I’m not saying people aren’t angry. Individual voices are screaming. But where’s the institutional response? Where are the daily editorials? Where’s the sustained media focus? Where’s the organizing?

One or two op-eds after “piggy” went viral. Then we moved on. Rachel Scott gets called obnoxious on camera and it’s a news cycle, not a catalyst.

Meanwhile nearly all of Trump’s press attacks in the last month have targeted women, with reporters from ABC, CNN, CBS, Bloomberg, and the New York Times facing abuse. This isn’t random. It’s a pattern. And patterns deserve pattern-level responses.

The Normalization Is the Problem

Maybe that’s the answer. We’re exhausted into acceptance.

The first time Trump called a woman “nasty” it was shocking. Now it’s Tuesday. The first time he had no Black cabinet members it was alarming. Now it’s expected. The first time policies targeted women and minorities it sparked resistance. Now we’re too tired to maintain outrage.

But exhaustion is how authoritarianism wins. They count on you getting tired. They bet on normalization. They know that if they’re outrageous enough, often enough, you’ll stop responding.

And it’s working.

What Men Specifically Need To Do

I’m talking to white men here because that’s who I am. That’s the group I can challenge without speaking out of turn.

We need to show up. Loudly.

When the President calls a woman “piggy,” every male journalist should write about it. Every male editor should assign coverage. Every man with a platform should say “this is disqualifying behavior.”

When there’s virtually no Black representation in positions of power, white men need to point it out. Repeatedly. Make it impossible to ignore.

When policies gut programs that help women—special education funding, nursing support, healthcare access—men need to be just as vocal as women about why that’s unacceptable.

Not because women and Black people need us to speak for them. Because we need to stop letting this happen in silence.

The Question For White Women

I also want to ask white women—especially those surrounding this administration—a question I genuinely don’t understand:

You’re standing next to a man who calls your colleagues “piggy” and “ugly”. You’re defending him. You’re amplifying his message. You’re dismantling programs that help other women.

Do you believe this is respect? Do you think you’re the exception? Do you imagine he talks about you differently when you’re not in the room?

Because he doesn’t respect women. He’s shown you. He’s shown all of us. The only question is whether you’re willing to see it.

Where We Go From Here

I’m writing this not to shame anyone but to ask: where did the sustained resistance go? Why does this feel more accepted now than it did in 2017?

Maybe it’s fatigue. Maybe it’s strategic retreat. Maybe people are organizing in ways I can’t see. Maybe the resistance is there and the media isn’t covering it.

But from where I sit—as a white man watching this administration debase women daily, exclude Black people systematically, and face minimal institutional pushback—it feels like we’ve normalized the unthinkable.

Every newspaper should have run editorials the day after “piggy.” Every journalism organization should have issued statements. Every person who claims to respect women should have said something.

The silence is deafening. And it’s exactly what they’re counting on.

So I’m asking: where is everyone? And what do we need to do to show up again?